How To Glow Up After A Breakup?
Going through a breakup can be emotionally and mentally draining. But as they say, every cloud has a silver lining; in this case, it’s the opportunity to rediscover yourself and undergo a transformative “glow up.”
I have experienced heartbreak and the challenges that come with it. But I’ve also found that turning that pain into motivation allowed me to emerge from the experience stronger and more confident than before.
In this article, I want to share some practical and empowering tips that helped me bounce back from a breakup and achieve my ultimate glow-up. Embrace this period of growth, and you can turn heartbreak into a powerful catalyst for change.
Take Time to Heal
A breakup can cause a flood of emotions. It’s essential to take the time to recover emotionally and mentally. Depending on the length and seriousness of the relationship, healing can be tough. However, there are ways to make it easier.
Here’s how to glow up after a breakup:
Acknowledge your feelings
A breakup can bring tricky emotions. It’s okay to feel sorrow, emptiness, anger, weariness, and confusion. Don’t focus too much on them. Allow yourself not to be okay. Don’t pressure yourself to be healed. It’s alright to struggle.
Talking sessions with friends, family, or a therapist can help. This can give you emotional support during this difficult time.
Allow yourself to grieve
It’s normal to feel emotions after a breakup like grief, sadness, disappointment, anger and confusion. Expressing these feelings in a healthy way, like writing or drawing, is important. But numbing these feelings with binge eating or drinking is tempting. Give yourself time to grieve without worrying about the timeline. Each person’s healing process is different.
As you really process your feelings, you’ll eventually feel better and ready to move on.
Make time for self-care
After a break-up, feeling emotional is normal. You need time to process it and move on. To do this, practice self-care! Here are some ideas:
- Take some time just for yourself. Watch your favorite show or go for a walk.
- Relax with deep breathing, yoga or meditation.
- Spend time in nature. Take walks in the park or trails. Enjoy nature’s calming effects.
- Play board games or try something new. It’ll bring back enthusiasm and joy.
- Write down your thoughts and feelings. Express yourself without judgement.
Taking care of yourself will help you get over someone. You’ll be ready to glow up!
Get Out and Socialize
A breakup can be rough. But don’t worry! Get out and be social. This will help you feel like yourself again. Plus, people around you can support and encourage you.
Don’t join a dating site yet. Instead, do activities you’ve always wanted to do. Or reconnect with old friends, or make new ones!
Reconnect with friends
Make a list of people who have shown you support in the past. Reach out to them.
- Plan activities that bring joy. Try bowling, mini golf, a concert, or visiting a museum.
- Organize a game night or trivia night with friends.
- Set up an online chat via Skype/Zoom and invite old friends over.
- Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Remember, friendships need time, patience, effort, and understanding.
Join a club or organization
Post-breakup, it’s great to get out and socialize! Join a club or organization – nature-focused, related to hobbies or career goals, or simply made up of people who like to try new things. You’ll meet people with similar interests and pursue something you’re passionate about. It could even open up your world to potential new friends. Plus, it will take your mind off the breakup and make you feel good again.
You can also access support groups for breakups, or potential mentors or coaches who could help guide your journey in healing and growing from the experience. Studies show this is beneficial for overall well-being when feeling lonely post-breakup.
Take a class or attend an event
Process the breakup, heal up, and get out! Go to an event that interests you. It could be a cooking class, painting session, concert night, or volunteer day. Feel better and have fun. Plus, you might meet some cool people. What an awesome opportunity!
Update Your Look
After a breakup, want to up your confidence? Revamp your look! Change your hairstyle, find some new clothes – the possibilities are endless. To take it further, switch up your makeup or skincare routine.
Here’s the key to a ‘glow up’ post-split: do something that makes you feel good!
Get a new hairstyle
Breaking up? Get a new ‘do! Change your hairstyle to give yourself a fresh start. Salons have plenty of possibilities, so anyone can benefit. Whether it’s drastic or slight, it’ll make an impact on your confidence.
For inspiration, look at celebs and fashion mags. Permanent changes? Consult a pro for the perfect color and cut. If experimenting is more your thing, beauty stores have spray on color washes and molding creams.
Test out the look first. Take photos of different styles so there won’t be any regrets when it’s time to decide.
Update your wardrobe
Breakups can make you feel lost and sad. But, it doesn’t have to make you who you are. To get your confidence back and refocus, spruce up your wardrobe! Invest in clothes that make you feel good.
- Look for basics like tops, bottoms, and layers for the season.
- Accessorize with jewelry, shoes, and more.
- Wear colors and styles to express yourself.
- Invest in pieces that make you stand out.
Find clothing that makes you happy. Take time to explore local boutiques or shop online. Don’t be scared to take risks with fabrics and styles. Discover what makes you unique.
Invest in a makeover
After a bad breakup, pamper yourself and invest in a makeover! Sign up for workout classes, go to the salon, and get professional headshots. Doing these things will make you feel like the best version of you and help you get back out there.
- Yoga and Pilates classes can gain strength and flexibility. Plus, you’ll be around people with similar goals. It’s a great escape from day-to-day life.
- At the salon, get a new hairstyle. It can give your hair life after months of coloring it yourself. Plus, it can make you feel beautiful inside and out. It’s a great way to relieve stress and boost your self-esteem.
- Finally, update your profile photos and remind yourself how great life is without people who don’t respect you. Having an attractive photo can even help attract someone, even for just one night stands!
Focus on Your Goals
Post-breakup, feeling lost and overwhelmed is natural. But it’s important to focus on what you want to accomplish. Setting goals and working towards them can help you to “glow up” mentally and physically. Doing this will motivate you to look after yourself and invest in your well-being.
Let’s take a look at how to set and reach goals to get a glow-up post-breakup:
Set achievable goals
To improve your life, set achievable goals. Be realistic and think of something that stands a good chance of success. Reflect on what makes you happy and plan specific actions to get closer to it.
Break your goal into smaller actions, so that progress can be tracked. This will make taking action less daunting. Have a timeline of short-term successes, like trying out new hobbies, and longer-term investments, like taking courses or attending workshops. This will help keep you on track, while having flexibility for potential opportunities.
Make a plan to achieve them
Breakups can lead to a lot of confusion. To move forward, take action and make positive changes in your life. Make a plan by setting specific goals. Make them realistic and achievable. Examples are exercising three times a week or taking a class in something that interests you.
Also, write down the overall changes and improvements you’d like to make in yourself. This could include becoming more confident or resilient in times of uncertainty. Writing helps us better understand our motives and gain clarity on our thoughts and feelings. Plus, it’s a great way to track progress.
Growth takes patience, courage and practice – don’t rush the process. Eventually, you’ll reach a place where breakups won’t stop your glow up. Focus on positively changing your life for the betterment of yourself.
Celebrate your successes
Caught in the breakup blues? Celebrate the small victories! Recognizing and rewarding yourself for your successes, however small, can help prevent negative routines. So, after doing the dishes, have a little victory dance! Or take a social media break from your ex and congratulate yourself on job searching.
Expecting to remain in a high mood all the time will make things harder – so give yourself credit when due. Achieving weekly goals is an indication of progress towards becoming stronger and more resilient. Though they may seem insignificant now, they all add up – you’ll thank yourself later!
Move Forward
Breakups are tough. But don’t get stuck. You can progress, develop, and make yourself feel better, even though it hurts.
I’ll discuss how to move on by being strong and learning how to take care of yourself post-breakup:
Let go of the past
Breakups can be difficult, especially if you’ve been with the person for a while. Even if it was mutual, it is still hard and normal to grieve. It may seem hard to move on, but it’s important to be around people who love you and do things that make you happy. That helps the healing process.
An important step is to let go of the feelings towards your ex. You can remember the good times, but accept that things have changed and it’s time to move on. Talk to friends or write down your thoughts in a journal.
Avoid negative patterns:
- Don’t contact your ex or look at their social media.
- Don’t compare yourself to them.
- Don’t feel resentment.
- Become aware of these patterns.
- Learn to not be dependent on another’s approval.
Boost self-confidence. Take care of yourself.
Healing doesn’t happen overnight. Allow yourself grace during this process. It will help make it easier going forward.
Believe in yourself
After a breakup, it may be tough to trust yourself. You could be dealing with feelings of doubt or sadness. To move on, it’s essential to remember your strength and renew the faith you had before the split.
Begin by looking in the mirror and saying nice things about yourself each day. As you recover from the heartache, remind yourself that you are important, strong, and resilient. Acknowledge your talents and successes, as well as times when you’ve been through rough patches. This gives proof that you have more courage than fear.
When conversing with others or doing activities, tell yourself that there is someone who will love you for who you are, including your peculiarities! Set up a daily routine where you feel safe and stay focused on the possibilities that life has in store, if you prioritize yourself first. This could be joining a fitness class or taking an online course. Anything that helps you progress will bring positive results and shape you into the best version of yourself.
Live in the present
Living in the present may be difficult with a broken heart. But it can be the key to a successful glow-up! Set goals for your future. Don’t focus on the past. Notice the changes you make, even if they seem small.
Replaying thoughts of the breakup will only hurt you. Before trying to meet someone new or develop relationships, find peace with yourself. Do activities to build self-esteem, like exercise, painting, or writing. Journaling can help too. Write down how you feel. Acknowledge yourself for coping with emotions. Research shows that gratitude list-making boosts mood. Appreciate yourself more!
Conclusion
In conclusion, I hope my personal experiences and the advice I offered in this article have inspired you to embrace your glow-up journey after a breakup. Transforming heartbreak into an opportunity for growth and self-improvement can lead to the best version of yourself.
Throughout this process, remember to be patient and kind to yourself. Healing takes time, but with each step forward, you’ll grow stronger and more confident.
May your post-breakup glow-up be a testament to your resilience, and may it pave the way for the happiness and fulfillment you deserve. Keep shining, and let your newfound strength and inner glow guide you to a brighter future.
